I’ve known the boy for 6 years and I know his parents, they are all good people. It appears to be innocent, like a first crush thing. But I don’t want to encourage her to be dating on a whim, or let her think that I think it’s ok to “date” at 11.
I would say that you should allow for her to go. If you wouldn’t allow for your daughter to be at the movies without an adult, I would suggest you take them to the movies and not sit with them. You can sit a few rows above just in case you wanted to supervise. But if you are comfortable leaving the two of them at the theater alone, of course, you can drop them off and pick them up immediately after the movie’s over. Or you can see another movie. Another thing would be to invite more people to go so that it could be a group outing versus a 1 on 1 date. An even more controlled setting would be renting some videos and let them watch them together at your house.
As for her, not to think that dating someone at 11 is the norm, you can tell her that you are allowing for her to go on the date because you’ve know the boy and his parents for a while and that’s the reason why you are allowing for the two of them to be going out. Also, if it would have been any other person, you wouldn’t be allowing the “date” because 11 isn’t the best age to begin dating.
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